HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSONALITY

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Highly Sensitive Persons (HSP) are born with a nervous system that is more sensitive than the average and a brain that processes everything on a deeper level than other people. They notice much more than others. Therefore, they often get overwhelmed or stressed and sometimes accused of being too sensitive or overdramatic.

In this month's newsletter we talk to Malin Johansson, Life Alignment Practitioner and Stress-Coach from Sweden, who found out in adulthood that she was highly sensitive.

Maggie: What does it really mean to be highly sensitive, Malin?

For me it is both a great gift and a challenge. Before I found out that I am highly sensitive, I often did more than I had energy for, because everyone else could do so much too. I sometimes thought there must be something wrong with me. For example it is not easy for me to shield myself from noises or the emotional atmosphere in a room. For other HSP it might be visual impressions or a struggle to adjust to surprising events.
Finding out that I am a HSP was such a relief and I was finally able to stop pushing myself and start listening to my needs. What it really means is that HSP are born with a nervous system that is more sensitive than the average population, which makes us more receptive to emotional and physical impressions. This and the deep processing of impressions is the most basic quality of HSP.

For some people maybe astonishing is the fact that approximately 20% of the population is highly sensitive, equally divided between men and women. This also applies to most animal species. Enough to be considered normal but not enough for the environment to always understand. Many HSP are thus misunderstood and misjudged, which can make them feel “strange” or “abnormal”.

Maggie: Deeply processing impressions, this sounds more like a gift than a strange limitation?

In fact, hypersensitivity is a kind of evolutionary strategy for survival – HSP evaluate any risks before taking action and tend to conserve their energy, unlike the majority of people who act quickly because they want to catch up first and then think. If HSP are in balance then they are empathetic, compassionate, intuitive, creative, and profound. For example I can really be delighted and enjoy a piece of dark chocolate or the scent of a flower, so I am rather easy to please with things that others may not even notice. Being highly sensitive is indeed a personality trait that is a great asset if you learn to handle it. It is neither a disability nor an obstacle to a normal life. However, in this extroverted world it often takes time until a HSP understands how to live life on their own terms and to take better care of themselves. Therefore many may appear withdrawn or shy. But shyness is a learned behaviour, which is about fear of negative judgments, and not an innate trait.

When I started to unwire my “learned patterns” I got introduced to Life Alignment. In my case, I was never shy as I am an extrovert HSP. Life Alignment helped me to unpack the gift of my unique way of high sensitivity, for example uitising my empathy in a healthy way.

Maggie: I am not a HSP. Life Alignment rather supports me to get more sensitive with myself and the world. It's interesting for me to see how it works both ways.

Being highly sensitive and not accepting this can lead to adapting to the rest of the world to an extent of non-existence and exhaustion. When out of balance a HSP might feel lonely, anxious and skinless. In this stage they are mostly not empathic at all and can be aggressive and even insensitive. Those patterns are not really helpful and can have different consequences. Life Alignment is not used to change high sensitivity but to deal with it in a better way and change your old patterns to protect yourself.

I just had to believe myself
Willow Rising

Life Alignment is a soft, intuitive and very effective approach to look at sensitivity and the feelings and blockages which manifested when we have learned to be “too sensitive”. It helped me to listen to myself and that’s one of the most important things when you are highly sensitive. The Life Alignment process guides you to be aligned with yourself and your talents. Throughout my life I tried a lot of therapies and healing approaches. A lot of these treatments have been simply too much for my nervous system. Too loud, too intense, too busy, too direct, too standardised. Life Alignment instead calms the overworking nervous system and directs you in your personal pace and deepness through your journey of self-discovery.

Maggie: I must admit the more we speak about HSP the more people coming to mind where this personality description fits in.

This is for a lot of people like this. Sometimes clients come and say “Hi, help me I am a HSP ” but more often it’s about how they feel. I have a client who came to me saying initially “I don’t know what’s wrong with me but I just want to be happy again”. We first started to explore what she actually felt and on how to acknowledge those feelings. This is so important for HSP and Life Alignment is the most amazing tool to get in touch with your desires. When she was connected to her needs, the next step was verbalising this to other people. That needed a lot of courage and a lot of sessions :). She now is able to say NO to people and she made the experience that this is appreciated by others. She even made the Body Spin Course of Life Alignment herself. This is something I highly recommend to HSP clients especially. It’s a relatively quick process to learn and provides great tools to give yourself “emergency-treatments” when you need to re-boost your energy-level. We have it in all countries and nearly all languages.

Maggie: Do you have some tips for HSP and for their loved ones?

Yes, there are very easy ways for all involved to make High Sensitivity a blessing and not a curse.

  • Put on “mono-tasking”
  • Always plan time in between events. Use breaks for new strength and energy.
  • If you feel overwhelmed, you can always go out of the room or even to the bathroom for a break. Shut your eyes and breathe deeply
  • Practice to say no and to have boundaries – you DON´T have to explain yourself. It’s ok to simply say “it doesn’t work for me”
  • Learn to meditate
  • Get to know other HSP, you are not alone
  • For the non HSP: You may not understand but please accept and believe what the HSP person says. It’s for real! A flap in the shirt or a humming fan can make the nervous system scream.

These are basic practices. Life Alignment will help you to make those yours.

I can give you an example on how I adjusted my lifestyle since acknowledging that I am highly sensitive: Travelling is really challenging for me. You get so many impressions, sounds, sight, adapting to different environments. The journey alone makes me feel like I need vacation. When I go with my friends for a weekend away, I just give myself time to rest while the girls go straight after the Check-in out for shopping and then eating and clubbing. I set boundaries for myself and meet them later at the restaurant with enough energy to enjoy. When I stopped doing everything others do, I’ve seen I am capable and can have a good time with my friends. When you accept yourself then others accept you as well.

A quick Body Spin session on myself to recharge and center myself also works miracles. The Vortex technology is brilliant for HSP people who are more sensitive to other people’s energy and electromagnetic/ geopathic stress. I always wear the “Personal Protector Card” and then depending on what I need I choose from the variety of the cards.

Maggie: Thank you Malin, it became indeed much clearer for me what a great gift it is to be highly sensitive, having such a rich world inside oneselves. I am looking forward to looking out for these traits in people to see what I can implement and take into account when being involved.

THE SCIENCE OF MANY REALITIES HAPPENING AT THE SAME TIME

The current pandemic is dramatically changing the way our world works. Many of us are facing challenges that can overwhelming and cause strong emotions. This invasive change affects not only the way we communicate and consume but also the way we feel about our approach to life. Life Alignment is using the potential of the energy of these turbulent times to move to the next level of global transformation. Right now it is time for us to activate our power and together create the world we desire.

Quantum physics works with the idea that we have the capacity to live in parallel universes with different realities occurring at the same time. We face a challenge as to how, in moments of deep stress, remember that there are many levels of reality and that we have the choice to move between the levels.

Merle Levin has shared some of her experience with Covid and hopes that by sharing it, she will be of help to others going through a similar process.
One Reality: Plans

My husband Jeff has an upcoming, 77th milestone event. Our plan was to rent a lovely farm and celebrate our Grampa, Dad and hubby of 53 years, who has been a rock of inspiration and wisdom, not only to our family, but to a global family of “Life Alignment” students in the field of natural health and energy medicine. The birthday boy felt healthy, athletic, fit, in love with life at the top of his game. This tangible, first level of reality, felt perfect in every way, shape and form.

Another Reality: The Medicine in the Poison

Even from the vantage of paradise, there is a full view of the state of a world in chaos and uncertainty. The Buddhists say we breathe with one breath, that we are in a connected oneness with everything. I knew this intellectually. Now I know it in the pit of my gut. We breathe with one breath.

Covid crept into our isolated sanctuary like a tiny terrorist and Jeff and I both became infected. It was a bit of a shock. Suddenly the news of Covid variants and spikes have taken on a new flavour; we are members of the club of Statistic.

I recovered from Covid with mild symptoms. Jeff has developed Covid Pneumonia. He is in the local hospital, on oxygen, fighting a battle of breath.

Suddenly I feel connected to the wider world at a new level. Suddenly I am in the war and we are breathing together with millions of struggling others. As I find a way to navigate my way through this, I trust that I am in some way assisting others as well.

I am trying to find the medicine in the poison. Some years ago, I asked Ouma Anna, an elderly San Bushman woman an important question as she dug for healing plants in the Kalahari Desert.

“Why are there poisonous plants?”

“Hai!” she replied. “Poison is medicine to keep you awake.”

I feel I am being called to find some kind of medicine in the poison. I know that I am not alone. I know I have a tangible field of support around me. This is what the physicists call the Quantum Field; what the Indigenous people call Ancestors; which others might call Angels or Guides. I know I can call upon this force for help and I do. And when I do, I get an inner guidance to try to turn from fear towards gratitude.

Grateful Reality: The Realm of Support

I have to search into the crevices of my panic over Jeff’s condition to find the gratitude. Breathing helps; connecting to my teachers helps; meditation helps; praying helps. I spent one entire night walking around my dining room table, trying to settle the extreme angst I was feeling. Walking helped. It became a walking meditation.

Then it arrived, the gratitude, like an invited guest. My hardened, shocked heart softened and I was able to sob at last with tears of the soul. Tears of gratitude for the tremendous level of support flowing towards us by so many around the world.

Jeff’s global “Life Alignment” family of students and teachers are rising to the occasion with such courage and deep synchronised work together. Different communities we have been connected with over the years are praying and sending light to Jeff. Messages are pouring into WhatsApp.

What a miracle this internet connection is! It reinforces the message that we are truly one body, breathing together with one breath.

The well of gratefulness has no bottom and no top. The water keeps welling up – for all of it, and for life itself.

Challenge Reality: Pushing through Fear.

On one of the days when I felt extremely low energy, I flicked on the TV to see what the Tokyo Olympics menu had on offer. I was hoping for gymnastics or synchronised swimming, BMX or horse jumping – something artistic and uplifting…uplifting? “How about high jump?” I asked myself, a sport I had never really watched or been interested in.

So,I settled into the couch with a blanket over my legs and settled in for an afternoon of watching 12 spaghetti-like, tight-tummied, hawked-eyed women, eye a beam that had been set at 1.09 meters above ground.
I readied myself for an afternoon of eagle-eyed boredom. As the bar was raised, some of the lithe ladies were forced out of the competition, a cruel but crucial part of the process of competition. I was not sure what the formula for success was, they were all equally talented athletes. The commentary seemed to focus on their level of mental ability, to stay above fear. This is what felt so inspiring to me. That after all the training to the body, it still comes down to how the whole system works together. With each high jump attempt I found myself meeting my own fear. I began to feel a softness for myself, for my own vulnerability.

I was fascinated at how the camera lens could hone into their eyes before each athlete took to a run before the jump. The zoom was such high resolution I could watch their pupils shift and change as they honed in with their entire body, mind and spirit on that bar in the distance. Pure focus; looking fear straight on; letting every cell and muscle and fibre of their being focus on one thing: “To meet this glorious challenge with all my might.”

F.E.A.R – Face Everything And Rise.
Which bar can you set higher – physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually?

Because in truth, the bar is rising. Time is tight for us all, and this Covid challenge is one of the cornucopia of challenges facing us as humans. A toned athlete, with discipline and dedication, shows me how I in my small corner of a living room at the tip of Africa can do it:
Find your team. Ask for help – draw on their support. Meet the challenge with a glint in your eye and let your spirit lift you over that bar. Sometimes it’s light, other times it’s heavy and the bar crashes down around you. Then, take up a pen or whatever artistic tool works for you, and let your heart and soul guide you through the process.

Covid right now is an Olympic event and each challenge is a lifting of the bar. The athletes were focused on the gold medal, for me the focus is somewhat different. For me, in this place, at this time, it seems to be about my visible and invisible team of support and how I can learn to draw on it in new and creative ways.

Jeff assures me, difficult though it is, that he is deeply thankful for this journey. He is connecting deeply to his field of spiritual support. His body is struggling while his spirit is soaring. It is as if his chariot has the wheels falling off but the driver sits strongly in his seat. I am inspired by his strength.

Thank you Merle for your wonderful insights. It is inspiring to remember that each and every situation in our life is there for us to activate more power of creation. When I read your full articles on your blog, I was touched to tears. You are an inspiring, strong and transforming woman.

NON-VIOLENT COMMUNICATION

Is the way we communicate violent?
In this month’s newsletter, we explore Nonviolent Communication with Renate Stoecker. This is a process through which we can learn to express ourselves honestly while listening to our feelings and those of others. Renate is a Life Alignment teacher in Germany and has worked as a Transformational Coach for many years.
Maggie: I have not considered the way I speak violent, however I do know that I have hurt people with my words. When do you consider communication to be violent?

Any form of judgment, demand, discrimination, blaming ourselves or others, gossip, negative self-talk, thinking in terms of right and wrong, in categories of “should have”, trying to achieve something by inducing feelings of fear, guilt or shame, is a contribution to violence in some way.

Nonviolent or Compassionate Communication as it is often called, is like learning a new language, the language of compassion and consciousness, of listening and speaking from the heart and looking beyond the words.

Maggie: Knowing there is no way to NOT communicate, I can understand it's like learning a new language. What changed for you, getting introduced to this form of communication?

I was born in the 50’s and my family background is shaped by the fact that people were still traumatized from the war, busily reconstructing their existence and doing what needed to be done. Connecting to feelings and needs seemed irrelevant at that time. It’s the generation of “follow demands and rules, do what is supposed to be done”. A common way of punishment in those days was also not talking to a person anymore for a while. So this language of speaking and listening from the heart felt to me like feeling vibrantly alive all of a sudden and making contact in a new, humane way. Learning this art of listening to what a person is feeling and needing and listening beyond the words, showed me the how to really making contact and resolving conflicts in a good way.

To listen empathically to yourself on the level of feelings and needs, also helps in dealing with your inner critic. When we are blaming ourselves, or when we are hearing blame, we are either buying into it and feeling bad, or we are defending ourselves. Either way, we are disconnecting from ourselves. When we don’t feel well and our needs are not met – instead of taking responsibility for it, we rather blame someone or something for it. It is essential to be aware that something may have triggered a feeling in me, but it is still MY feeling and need and I am taking responsibility for both.

 

Message from Jeff Levin:

“We had a woman in London years ago and she had to mentally communicate with her husband during a session. The same old pattern of blame came up which is what happens when our buttons are pushed. A wall comes up and from this place you can’t listen but only judge. I said to her “Is he hearing you?” No, he still doesn’t hear me. “Can you say it in a way that comes from your heart to his heart with kindness and compassion”? This woman did a few takes and when we finally got there she felt completely different. “Is he hearing you now?” Yes, he’s hugging and loving me. The reason I’m sharing this is that an hour later her husband came to pick her up from the seminar. The whole energy of the relationship had changed, he felt it without knowing anything about the session and there was a new line of connection.

A Life Alignment process is about rewiring old habitual patterns of behaviour and communication. In a session very often, there is a need to communicate to “an oppressor” and the old patterns can come up as we take the individual into a safe space where they access their sole frequency and their heart. There is then a re-patterning of a trauma related wiring which changes the line of communication from then on”.

Maggie: This reminds me of situations in the work environment. Renate, I am sure it's a very useful tool there as well?

Indeed! Many years ago I was asked to help resolve a conflict for an intercultural project, which was run by Germans and Malays. The Germans accused the Malays of being unpredictable, which made planning for them impossible. The Malays meanwhile thought the German were inflexible, too direct and arrogant. Of course this web of judgments and labels brought up anger and resentment in both parties and made cooperation seem impossible.

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field, I will meet you there”
Rumi

When I was called in, I had been told about all the things that had gone wrong, I focused however on deep listening and understanding “what does each party need in order to work in the best possible way”. Once the whole project team focused on that level of “we can listen to each other”, the energy changed the team became very motivated to look for mutually satisfying solutions. Only when they feel really heard they are ready to open up. That is when compassion as a healing tool comes in and works miracles.

Maggie: This resonates so much, especially when I look at the way of communication during this current pandemic.

Yes. In this time of disruption and transformation many of us feel that it can also be a gift to have the time to tune in with ourselves and feel into what really matters for us. Compassionate Communication can also help to bridge the polarities we see worldwide. Just look at the vaccine opponents and advocates, both groups reacting extremely opinionated, blaming each other of being “insane, stupid, unaware…”. There is so much polarisation going on at the moment instead of listening to fears, worries and needs. Instead we could use the opportunity to meet not only the other person’s needs but also ours! Well, Life Alignment is indeed a powerful tool to deeply connect to ourselves, find out about our fundamental needs and speak our truth.

Maggie: That means Life Alignment Balances do help to learn the language of Nonviolent Communication?

Definitely. In Life Alignment we are connecting on the level of the heart and soul and we realise that it is our inner environment and old trauma, beliefs and hurt, that is triggered by other people or events in our life. By releasing those traumatic memories, it becomes easier to connect to ourselves and be aware of our feelings and needs in the present moment.

Healing comes about when compassion and deep understanding comes in. We are clearing our filters of perception. From the perspective of the heart and soul, the world looks very different.

We also take responsibility as we know we have co-created our experience and realize that it is our inner environment that makes us suffer the most, especially the thoughts and beliefs we have bought into. We know, we can make conscious choices to bring qualities into our lives we truly desire.

Maggie: I can only agree! How can I start practicing Compassionate Communication in my daily life?

A good start would be to connect to your own feelings throughout the day and be curious, what the need is behind your feeling, met or not met. A process of Compassionate Communication consists of four steps:

1. Perceive what is happening and describe the situation as a pure observation without judgment, which is not easy to do. We tend to mix what we perceive with how we evaluate it.
I’ll give you a very common example:

Violent: “She is very disrespectful of our time to always be late for our meeting.”
Compassionated: “She came 15 min late to our meeting for the 3rd time, I wonder what was going on.”

The difference between these approaches is big. The harm originates from the thoughts, interpretations and meanings we attach to an incident.

2. Connecting to yourself – What are you feeling?

Feelings show us whether or not our needs have been fulfilled. When our needs are met, we may feel inspired, balanced, free, enthusiastic, peaceful, etc. On the flip side when our needs are not met we may feel frustrated, discouraged, angry, sad, depressed etc. So when I see you coming later than we agreed, I become unsure, because I am thinking, the meeting is not important to you and I would love everyone to be on board to make decisions together.

3. Find the need behind your feeling:

I am feeling sad, because my need is … because I would like … I desire …

Violent: “Can you not come in time when we schedule a meeting? We all needed to wait for you”.
Compassionated: “When you come late for the meeting I feel sad as I really wish that we are all on board equally. How do you feel about this”?

4. The last step is to express a doable and positive request.

Please will you…; Are you willing to do this?
It is important, not to confuse a request with a demand: Requests mean that you are open to accepting “no” as a response and then find a new arrangement together.

You can practice this at any moment during the day.

Maggie: That sounds fantastic Renate. Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom about Compassionate Communication. I am excited to learn this new language and I heard there will be a relating Life Alignment workshop very soon :). I will keep us updated!

Inner Child

Most of the time, we feel pretty comfortable as an adult, right? Being able to do whatever we want without asking for permission, whether that means spending our own money or wasting away on the couch for an entire Sunday. But do you also know the feeling when someone gives you a snarky comment and suddenly you feel like a child again, wanting to throw a temper tantrum? No matter how old we grow, we carry our younger selves within us day-to-day. By connecting with our inner child, we gain access to “new” information about our unhealed wounds. In this month’s interview we will speak about inner child work with my muse when it comes to emotional balance, compassion and radiance, Life Alignment’s advanced teacher and practitioner Tanya Harris from South Africa.

Maggie: Tanya, as my Life Alignment teacher, I have seen you many times doing outstanding inner child work. Why are you so in tune with it?

I have done extensive work with my own inner child. I had debilitating panic attacks, which is actually how I discovered Life Alignment. I went to my very first Life Alignment session with Arleen Hanks who now lives in Australia, to help with my panic attacks. The session guided us straight to inner child work. By listening to my wounded inner children I had such a profound shift, that I wanted to continue working with it.   

Maggie: Interesting, because you are talking about it in plural. Does this mean we have more than one inner child?

Absolutely. A child responds differently to an event depending on their age. For example, the baby in the womb, the 6 year old who just started school, the teenager who is trying to find where she belongs etc. These are the inner children and each with their different responses to trauma, and their own needs. It is important to note that we don’t only have wounded children, we also have golden children within us. When we can access the golden child we can bring a lot of happiness, joy and freedom to the adult. 

Maggie: Do you need to have childhood trauma in order to have childhood wounds?
We all have inner child issues and not all of them stem from trauma. To give you an example: Maybe you performed very well at school. Every time you get a report your parents praise you and say, “Well done!”. The belief system that may have kicked in is, “When I do well, I get praised – I am valuable”. Naturally I then want to achieve and perform well because then I get loved. And this comes with “When I don’t perform well, I am not loved”. You see the parents are not bad at all, however this belief system might affect your future habits. So you become an overachiever. 

Little things like that can become stuck in our heads as children. So not all inner child work is because of severe or complex childhood trauma such as physical or emotional abuse. 

Inner child work is about finding out where your limiting beliefs started and how to let them go.
 

Each child comes to earth to be loved. Babies are coming to this world just to give love, be love and experience love. If you ever held a new born baby you can feel this pure Divine energy, right? But if we experience unavailable or conditioned love as a baby we start believing this is our fault. For example when your mom is a child herself when she gives birth and she doesn’t know how to treat a baby, it grows up thinking “There must be something wrong with me, I am not good enough to be loved”. 
 
Maggie: Why is that? Why does a child blame itself and has even the ability to blame at all?

It’s not really a conscious blame, it’s more like the child feels that they are not valuable or wanted. When you are a very small child your parents are everything to you, sort of like your Gods, as they give you life. We come into this world through the mother and we are received by the father. When the mother’s love is not available or if the mother is rejecting you, because of issues she is going through, then the baby feels, “there must be something wrong with me – there is no one that will nurture me”. 

The father receives us, so represents the world. If the father is absent, the baby feels ”the world can’t accept me, I am not protected, I am not safe”. 

So if a baby is not getting love, connection and protection, it can not blame the “Gods”, it starts to believe that it is not worthy of those things – something is wrong with me.

Later in life this can play out in many different ways. We might think “I do not deserve”, “life is supposed to be hard” or “I am not worthy” and this can become habits in very different ways. You might become a people pleaser to not be rejected. Or you reject before anyone else can reject you. 
 
Maggie: Please tell me more about how we can transform ourselves with the golden child? When I watch children or puppies I can see so many things we can learn from them, but it always looks like qualities adults don't have access to?

Sometimes we can go back to an age where we were free, wild and happy. As we get older our golden child gets subdued. We forget that we have these qualities and wisdom within us. The golden child however is just as important and accessible as the wounded child. It remembers being part of God and being pure love. It knows who we truly are. We can access these aspects of ourselves, once we heal and let go of all the wounds that stop us from being true to ourselves. For example people come to a Life Alignment session because they can’t connect to their purpose on this planet. Very often the golden child will come through to remind us of the purpose of shining love, playing and having fun. 

The golden child is just as important as the wounded child

 
Maggie: Inner children seem to be able to teach us so much! Would you say they really exist within us or is it just a memory?
The inner child exists. If you have ever seen an adult throwing a temper tantrum, you have seen their inner child in action. The wounded child is the button that gets pushed and the reactions that we express are the defence mechanisms that we learnt when we were very little, to survive that situation. 
So for example when we are sitting in a meeting and a colleague gets upset, that could be his (or her) inner 5 year old which gets emotional, because somebody might have said something that reminded him of how his father used to criticize him – so this unresolved button is pushed and he starts throwing a tantrum. At that moment he is no longer the 40 year old, he has regressed to the 5 year old and accordingly feels and reacts as a 5 year old who does not have the tools to manage the situation. 

The inner child is alive in all of us and if you become aware of it, you can actually catch yourself a few times a day responding as your wounded child. One of the ways when we work with the inner child, is to be able to recognise ourselves in those moments. 

However, the last thing you want to do after you recognise you behaved inappropriately is telling yourself “how could you behave like this, why have you done this” etc. What you are doing then is shouting at your inner child and you are becoming the abusive parent. What we need to do is look at ourselves with compassion. That’s another whole topic, becoming your inner parent. The whole point is to heal the triggers or buttons, by doing for the child what you needed back then, so that you don’t react to them anymore but simply notice them. 

Maggie: I can imagine recognition is the most difficult one. We so often think “This is who I am, this is my opinion, this is me setting boundaries”, not realising the inner child which is triggered.
This is why modalities such as Life Alignment are so important. As it gives us an opportunity to get into those spaces where we had the reactions to see which aspect of us is actually reacting. Then finding out what that aspect of ourselves actually needs in order to heal. To break the cycle of inner abuse and inner triggers, we have to find out what the root cause for this is. But you have to be patient. It takes a while. When you become aware you slowly but surely can start to introduce a new parenting style to your inner self. In a way you fire the old parent which wasn’t good for you at this specific point of time in your life and invoke a new parent. The old parenting style is based on the parenting style of your parents, which also has been influenced by their parents. You don’t want to have this in your unconscious mind. Now we can invoke a new, divine style of parenting. Subconsciously you alter it as a massive aspect of your psyche. 
 
Maggie: Can you please explain a bit more in detail what our subconscious mind does in a Life Alignment balance?

In a LA session you connect to such a deep and pure space of being, that you subconsciously get the opportunity to rewire your neurological pathways. The trigger and root cause connected to it is not running with the same internal programming anymore. The root cause is unveiled, the trigger is tackled and the neurological system is firing a new pathway and now you can respond differently to when your button gets pushed. That old belief-system and pattern of behaviour is broken. Yes, it takes a while for the conscious mind to catch on. That’s why I am saying you might sit in the next meeting and see yourself reacting in the same way. However, half way through you recognise it’s your inner child coming through and you calm yourself down. To give you an example: In the past I felt intimidated by some women and would turn into a people pleaser. The moment I watched this trigger I would excuse myself and go to the bathroom. There I checked in with my inner child, felt that she was scared and reassured her “this woman outside is not your mom, you are safe, I love you”. I would give her permission to not be in that meeting. As why must you subject your inner child to something she is not capable of dealing with? It’s too big and scary for her. So I give her permission to play with the fairies while I, the adult, go back into the meeting. Remember this. You don’t need your inner child in each situation in life. You took care of it and gave her permission to be vulnerable and play somewhere else, so that you the adult can face the “danger”, as you are very capable.  

Maggie: What practice can we do at home to get in touch with our inner children?
There is a really good exercise you can do to explore your triggers. Let’s use anger as an example, but of course you can do this with any feeling or reaction you may have.
I recommend putting yourself in a Vortex Circle, then going within and just feeling the last moment where you got really angry. When you are right in that feeling, ask yourself who is the inner child in that moment. Trust your imagination as this is the key to your subconscious mind.  How old is she (or he), what is her body language like, what is going on in her life?
Once you know who she is and what her circumstances were, ask her what she needs. Let her tell you or show you and then immediately do for her what she needs or asks for. It could be love, to be held, to be heard, acceptance, protection, to sing to her etc. She will know.
Then when she is feeling better, safer etc, tell her that you, the adult is in charge and that she does not need to be present for scary conversations or situations, you got this! You, the adult, will deal with all the adult stuff, she can stay safe in your safe place, whatever that may be for you. You can even follow up: What can I do in future to make sure you are safe? Never make promises that you cant keep, to your Inner Child.  Rather say that you will try your best and then prove to her you are more trustworthy than the adults she knew in childhood. 
Maggie: Thank you so much Tanya, this sounds like a fascinating, complex and lifelong transformation. It all makes so much sense and I can't wait to attend one of your next Inner Child Workshops on Zoom.

Intuition

We all know that feeling in your gut when you instinctively know that something you are doing is right or wrong. Or that moment when you sense kindness, or fear, in another’s face. You don’t know why you feel that way; it’s just a hunch. But what is it?
We will look at this question in this month’s interview with Dr. Jeff Levin (DNM). Jeff developed the techniques and methodology of the Life Alignment system over years and “downloaded” the relevant knowledge intuitively.

 

Maggie: Jeff, what is intuition for you?

 
Jeff: You like to begin with big questions, right? 🙂
I see intuition mostly as connectedness. So the ability to connect to a source of information and inspiration. This can have many ways and mechanisms and work differently for everyone. For example you can have the well-known “gut feeling”, which is a connectedness you feel through the solar plexus chakra. Then there is that guiding feeling of the heart’s desire which you sense through the heart chakra. There is also intuition felt through the brow chakra and the crown chakra where you receive pure information from divine, universal intelligence. Ultimately intuition is just a knowing through the body, not something out there. It’s a recognition, a remembering, a hearing which everyone experiences in a different way. But what’s the same for everyone, is that you have to get beyond your rational mind in order to experience the power of your own intuition. 
I love to refer to Albert Einstein’s quote in this context: 

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift” 

So we were gifted with intuition as the master and the mind as the servant. However, we’ve made the mind the master and the intuition the servant. We’ve just got it the wrong way around. 

Maggie: Why is that the wrong way around? It's not that we haven't got far with this “misunderstanding”. What is the disadvantage with mainly using the mind?

Jeff: When information is coming through the channel of the mind it’s a very strong filter that sieves the facts based on your individual knowledge and experience. It has to go beyond this, the mind has to get out of the way for that pure, neutral intelligence to come through. 

Let me give you an example: There is intuition that happens spontaneously when you train the mind to step aside. You don’t even know where it comes from, you are not aware of it at that moment. That happened to me many times. You can not try to intune it, because then the mind is already active and in the way. You allow your body to act to its instincts in an instantaneous response.
So when we first arrived in Cape Town I was living in Fresnaye. We bought a small studio-flat for the few months in a year we would stay in South Africa. It was a massive building with about 170 different flats. One morning on my way to a workshop – already running late – I rushed down to my car and another car parked there blocking me. I didn’t know how on earth I would get out of that. But my body all of a sudden ran upstairs to the second floor, down the corridor and knocked on a random door and the occupant opened with a shocked expression in his face, asking “Oh my word, am I blocking you, do you want me to move?”. So I had no idea where I was going. I could not have intuited that. Had I tried to develop it with my mind like “let’s intuit now to solve the situation …where do I go?” it would have never worked out. I just acted on the spur of the moment and afterwards I realised how have I known this? If nothing is blocking you, intuition can come as a spontaneous action – you are literally led. A big part of intuition is an inner guidance and a total surrender to something that is coming which is beyond your mind.

Maggie: That sounds amazing and easier said than done! You mentioned “training the mind to step aside”. Does this mean we can train intuition like we can train a muscle?

Jeff: Yes absolutely!
Meditation is very important to still the mind and let intuition come through louder. Through meditation you train to access that higher part of yourself and we witness weekly how beautifully it works during the guided meditation in the open Zoom-Chat with Jeff. You surrender your mind and that works even better in groups.

On an even deeper level Life Alignment is a modality which is created to guide and transform you beyond your mind to your heart’s purpose.

There are many ways to train intuition, but let’s put it this way. There are people that spend their lives praying to God asking to help their trouble and nothing ever happens, because they stay in a victim state and not taking responsibility for themselves. The universe doesn’t step in when the person doesn’t step in themselves. When you take responsibility in whatever form you do that to come into your center and to be present and this not just for yourself but for the whole, the universe pours tons of support, energy, intuition and knowledge over you. If we show up to discover our souls true purpose, beyond our ego, and be of service to humanity then the magic of the universe switches on. Showing up is enough. 

“There s no intuition if there is no trust. When you show up the universe pours tons of support over you” 

You may not trust this in the beginning, but as long as you go with whatever comes up, tenderable evidence will show up in order to manifest your faith. You can only develop trust if you know the cause and effect. It’s not an intellectual concept. Trust comes because of a big “Ah Ha effect”.

 
Maggie: I like that you speak of proof when it comes to trust. That it is enough to show up and have basic faith, however that we don't have to trust blindly but can count on evidence. Does this mean if we trust enough we can jump out of an airplane without a parashooter? :-)

Jeff: It is very important to be aware if the look out for evidence comes from an ego place. Evidence has got to do with the right moment and comes often when you least expect it. It has got to do with grace. The universe decearns and says “trust me first and then I give you evidence”. That’s the principle of trust. It doesn’t give you what your ego needs, but it responds to the current of trust that is already existing. Many people have given many signs but the mind hasn’t been able to see it.

Maggie: That makes sense, thank you for clarifying Jeff. You mentioned that Life Alignment sessions help to come into contact with our intuition. Can you tell us more? When is the moment we access space beyond the mind?

Jeff: When you go to receive a Life Alignment session your mind often takes you there. For example “I have back pain” or “I am stuck in my career”. However you allow yourself to be surprised and not attached to the intention, as very often the priority which comes up in the sessions seems to be completely unrelated. As you trust the emotions and body points which come up for you they reveal something to you that your mind would have never conceived. Receiving and giving Life Alignment sessions is your most powerful practice, because in that state of being you are detached to your mind/ ego. The Life Alignment team comes to support and we are literally directed to be neutral and connected. You are guided to a space which is aligned with all aspects of your unique purpose and therefore intuition opens up to you. This blissful space is the zone beyond your mind and from this place we achieve a better connection to our truth. As a result we have a more harmonious connection to the outside world, the nature and the circumstances we are surrounded with. At the same time we nurture the relationship to our Higher Intelligence and our supporting team, which surrounds and guides us all the time. The universe always supports us, but we are not always mindful of that. 

“Life Alignment is a spiritual practice which is designed to open the channel and build the muscle of your own intuition”
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Maggie: Is it not unfamiliar to nurture a relationship to something we cannot see and touch? How can we develop and strengthen our relationship to our Higher Self and Life Alignment team? How do I maintain that beautiful space I am in during a Life Alignment balance”?

Jeff: For me, I have them constantly in my mind and in my heart. And there are times when I communicate with them when necessary. The more you interact with your team through thinking, feeling, speaking the more your channel of perception develops. As a result you connect quicker and clearer to the guidance which is always in your highest interest and connected to unconditional love of the source. It’s a consistent presence where you gain an ability to stay connected.

Maggie: If I go to a Life Alignment session for self-development, why does universal guidance kick in to support. How is this "of benefit for the whole"?

Jeff: The reason why we have a team of guides to support us is to become a better version of ourselves for the better version of the whole. The closer we merge to our truth the closer the planet merges to truth. In other words, the guidance which works through the practitioner uses the opportunity of the client’s issue and transmits the transformation into the collective consciousness. Every time we work on something it has a ripple effect. This is the big thing about Life Alignment. Because in our work we are guided, we are healing not only horizontally with the collective consciousness, but also vertically. On a human level and a soul level. Physical and non physical. 

Maggie: Thank you Jeff, that was very insightful and yet practical. I can say from my own experience that there is a life before and after Life Alignment. It is very difficult to despair when you always know that there is a tool you can use to get connected, neutral, empowered and inspired. I trust in this lifestyle. There is of course still duality in me. But I see how little by little the trust in my inner voice during a session merges with the trust in myself and my intuition during the day.