Do you have a strong sense of self-worth?
Your own sense of self worth is vital to our well-being and success to achieve what we thrive for. We all have moments where we feel insecure, vulnerable, and small. Real self worth really comes to play in times of uncertainty; to be confident and feel worthy while we are not in control. Some of us spend the majority of our lives struggling to connect with our worth. We might feel like we are undeserving of love and abundance, or that we must earn our acceptance by performing well or doing things for others. It can be hard to consistently live with a deep knowledge of our innate value.
In last month’s newsletter we explored the relevance of our brain and autonomic nervous system in order to change our conscious and unconscious belief systems. In this month’s edition we delve into the ever prevalent topic of our own self-worth. Michael Coyle talks to us about the importance of it and how one’s improved self-worth can lead to manifesting and feeling abundant.
A Best Practice Story
Michael is a Life Alignment practitioner from South Africa and shares with us a best practice story about one of his clients coming to his practice. The first impression of this client came across smart and confident. Everything in his life was going well and he seemed to be happy. He was in sales and made many deals every month but for some reason he hardly earned any money. Even when extra money came in such as gifts or bonuses, it went out quickly again.
Such ominous “cracks” started showing up in all areas of his life such as in his relationship and friendships. It all looked good on the surface but below was disharmony, imbalance and the energy of crisis.
Furthermore the client was hypercritical of himself and proud to be a perfectionist. Starting with this intention, discovering the leaks underneath the surface of his life, he began the journey with Life Alignment. Right at the start, during his first Life Alignment session, he connected to a deep space within him that had an incredibly low feeling of self-worth.
Life and Organisation Alignment Process
Michael realised quickly that working on increasing his self-worth will have a positive effect on his client’s business as well and initiated an Organisation Alignment process with the client’s Sales Department.
Business or Organisation Alignment involves looking at what is holding a business or organisation back from reaching its full potential or fulfilling its purpose and mission. However, it is when we balance the people within the organisation that the real transformation happens and the organisation shifts.
The client and his team indeed made huge progress. His business was starting to make money sustainably, and his relationships were improving.
How did the Life & Organisation Alignment process help the client to shift his manifesting reality?
Michael worked on the widely spread hidden belief system ‘I’m not worthy’. During balances they identified certain blocks, mainly from the client’s childhood, that initiated to carry such a belief system. For example the client was always told by his teachers that he would not amount to anything because he was ‘too energetic and busy’, because they couldn’t control him in the classroom. At home he was forced to keep everything neat and tidy and nothing must be out of place. Everything had to be perfect. Together these scenarios were shaping his perfectionism on the outside while feeling not good enough on the inside.
Using the Life Alignment balancing procedure Michael’s client was able to move into feeling more compassionate towards himself. He started to realise internally that he was good enough and didn’t need the approval of teachers or anyone else in the outside realm who didn’t know how to handle and appreciate him. He also realised that everything doesn’t have to look perfect on the outside to achieve success. He set up a savings account for himself and began to pay himself – to appreciate himself and his invested energy. This, on the surface small appearing contribution, acted like a plug which prevented the money from escaping. Michael’s client began to create more wealth and value for himself. He also found that he was seeking less and less approval or validation from other people and this strengthened his relationships, especially the one with himself, because he discovered that he was good enough to deserve a rich life.
The value I place on myself
determines what happens in my life.
It is a long and profound journey to develop a deep sense of self-worth. Michael continues to tell us of a time he once offered his services on Facebook for half price for a limited time.
“A day later I went to a client who was a financial advisor. She said hello and immediately said that she had seen my services offered at half price. I happily said ‘yes, I need more clients and am offering a discount to attract new ones’. She replied saying, ‘you are only going to attract clients that will pay half your fee and half your worth.’ The smile left my face as the penny dropped.”
“When I know I’m worth more, then more appears in my life, when I discount myself then less appears in my life,” Michael continues.
We all have moments where reality hits – rent goes up, the cost-of-living increases and there’s even more months left at the end of the money. This is a time when our self-worth can hit a low. A spiral downwards might continue when we adjust our process or ask for a raise to meet the inflation costs and as a result some clients leave and our financial needs get rejected.
To increase one’s feeling of self-worth it is necessary to understand where these limiting beliefs originated and how a response change is necessary.
What can we do to assess and increase our self worth?
Become aware of the feeling
“I pay attention to the thoughts and statements I make to myself (and about myself), especially during moments of self-doubt or stress. When I catch myself thinking or saying something negative about myself, I challenge it. I ask if there is evidence to support this thought or if it’s an irrational belief”, explains Michael.
He also does Life Alignment sessions with fellow practitioners or on himself to uncover these hidden and limiting belief systems. “It is fascinating to discover how many limiting beliefs we actually have and it is a huge release to get to know and let them go.”
There are tools available
to all of us to turn around our negative self-worth.
- Replace negative self-talk with positive, affirming statements: if you catch yourself thinking, “I’m not good enough for this job,” replace it with, “I have the skills and experience to succeed in this job.”
- Create a list of positive affirmations: that reflect your strengths and aspirations. Repeat these affirmations daily, especially in the morning or before challenging situations. For example, “I am capable and confident” or “I deserve success.”
- The ‘but’ technique: When you catch yourself using negative self-talk, add the word “but” to introduce a more positive perspective. For example, “I made a mistake, but I can learn from it and improve.”
- Create a Self-Care Routine: Design a daily or weekly self-care routine that includes activities and practices that make you feel relaxed and rejuvenated. This routine can be customized to your preferences and schedule.
- Mindful Breathing: Take a few minutes each day to engage in deep, mindful breathing. Focus on your breath, inhaling slowly and deeply, and exhaling fully. This practice can help reduce stress and increase your overall sense of well-being.
- Body Movement: Engage in physical activities you enjoy, whether it’s yoga, jogging, dancing, or simply taking a walk in nature. Regular exercise is an excellent form of self-care.
- Practice Gratitude: Each day, take a moment to reflect on the things you’re grateful for. Keep a gratitude journal where you write down the positive aspects of your life. This can help you shift your focus toward positivity and self-worth.
- Set Boundaries: Learn to say no when necessary and establish healthy boundaries in your personal and professional life. Respecting your own limits is a fundamental aspect of self-worth.
- Disconnect from Technology: Allocate specific times of the day or week to unplug from technology. This allows you to recharge and connect with yourself and others in a more meaningful way. Consider taking periodic digital detoxes, where you abstain from social media, emails, and digital devices for a set duration.
- Self-Compassion Meditation: Practice self-compassion meditation to cultivate kindness and understanding toward yourself. This type of meditation helps build self-worth and reduce self-criticism.
Creative Expression: Engage in creative activities that allow you to express yourself, such as painting, writing, playing a musical instrument, or crafting. Creative expression can be a therapeutic form of self
Healing and expansion is a profound process. Life Alignment is designed to facilitate this journey – safe, individual and efficient. After a trauma has been dealt with and the forgiveness or acceptance of a situation comes into effect, only then do we enter into that space of peace and self-love: The ultimate foundation of the natural and magnifying power of self-worth.
Vortex Card of the Month
On the body, the Heart card is working on the heart chakra invoke love and to bring in increased harmony. As a result, the card promotes vitalising the physical heart. On a more subtle level, the Heart card encourages openness to internal and external love, to self worth and feelings, such as forgiveness, confidence and optimism.
As in Feng Shui, Home Alignment (which is an aspect of Life Alignment) works with the premise that each building has a heart center. The Heart card can be used on a building as a whole or for individual rooms.
The Heart card helps to strengthen the Heart Center so that it can act as a positive source of energy for the building. It also works on balancing the masculine and feminine energies of a home. To locate the Heart Center in your building, please contact a Home Alignment consultant near you.
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